So how do you become genuinely happy?

Is it possible for you, or do you feel like nothing good can ever come to your life? Being happy isn’t difficult at all, but it isn’t necessarily easy either. You will have to make an effort to change your mind, and that is really all it takes; to change your mind. Happiness is a state of mind. It isn’t something that happens to you, and it isn’t something that someone else can give to you. Happiness is a gift you bring to yourself.

So the next step in the process of gaining happiness is, to love yourself. If you have a problem with the word “love” here, change it to the word “accept”. You see, loving yourself is really nothing more than accepting the fact that you are not a perfect being. No one is. You must learn to see your unique characteristics and to know, that there is no one quite like you. This can be a powerful insight if you accept it.

Most people never get to the point where they feel content with themselves. We need no more proof of this, than to examine the billions of dollars a year spent on cosmetic surgery, all to allow us to look like everyone else. What drives us so much, to actually submit to risky things just so we feel like we “fit in” with the crowd?

If you truly want to be happy, you must right now, accept yourself just as you are, a unique and wonderful piece of God.

Now you might be asking, what does this have to do with dating and finding a mate? Believe me, it has everything to do with it. Until you can accept yourself, and yes, love yourself, how can you love another? And, if you don’t love yourself, how can you believe someone else could? I suggest, that before you go looking for someone to love you, learn to love yourself first. Realize too, that you do not need someone to complete you; you want someone to compliment you.

Here are a few things to think about as you learn to love and accept yourself.

1.    First, please stop criticizing yourself. Accept yourself as you are, and know that is more than enough. If you do not like your current situation, criticizing yourself will accomplish nothing. Just know that if you want to, you can change any situation you are in. Life is about constant change.

2.    Then next thing to do is, praise yourself often. Praise will cancel out criticism, so whenever you find yourself being critical of you, immediately switch that and find something to praise in yourself. This works wonders!

3.    Start loving yourself NOW. Do not wait to love yourself until you find a relationship, or get the job you want, or lose the weight you need to lose. Instead, love yourself now for who you are at this moment. If you love yourself now, all of the things you long for will begin to fall into place.

4.    Find ways to support yourself. Don’t feel like you have to do everything alone. Reach out to friends or family when you need to. It isn’t a sign of weakness to ask for help. In fact, it shows great strength to know when you need outside help.

5.    Start taking better care of yourself today. Learn what the best foods are for you, and incorporate some light exercise into your life. This will lift your spirits and give a boost to your confidence.

6.    And finally, treat yourself with compassion. Be gentle, kind, loving and caring with yourself. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved…because now you do!

I hope you see how important it is for you to love yourself. Once you begin to accept yourself, and see how unique and special you are, your life will begin to open up and happiness will envelop you. Maybe you will even realize that the person you have searched for all these years to love you, was right there inside your heart all along.

To help you on your journey of self love and better self-esteem I recommend that you give EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) a try. It is free and easy to learn. Click on the video link below to watch how EFT can positively impact all areas of your life.