Does size matter to women?

You can not believe how many times a week I get this question from men. They want to know if they are doomed to be single forever because they don’t have the penis of a porn star.

The letters always get around to the blame game, asking why women are so shallow, or why women only like guys who are well endowed. The letters are usually about the "terrible" and  "evil" women who plague their existence because these men think they don’t "measure up".

I am very polite, and I try to tell them that most women don’t care about how big you are, but rather how you make them feel, etc. I tell them about a recent study, where They NEVER believe me. In fact, some guys write back to me in a very angry tone to tell me how completely wrong I am and some even accuse me of lying. Why I would lie to them is completely beyond me, but whatever.

Recently I received this letter in response to my answer to the question of "does size matter", which inspired me to write the article you are reading now. Anonymous wrote:

Being a man, I have insecurities about size. Some women say it matters, some say it doesn’t. My question is, why does it SEEM that so many women view size as important? It’s darn near sickening to see women deny that it’s an issue, but I’ve never (and I’ll bet you’ve never) seen a well-endowed man lack for partners. So when it’s really so obvious, why the charade? On the small chance that it really doesn’t matter to a significant portion of the female population, then why doesn’t it seem that way? - A frustrated and lied to guy

I will now answer this man, and all of the other men who have asked this question. In fact, from now on when I receive this question from men, I will simply refer them to this article. This is my last word on this subject.

If you have insecurities about the size of your penis, first you must acknowledge that this is YOUR insecurity and not the insecurity of every woman you have met or will meet in the future. Whether you believe me or not, this is the least concern on the minds of most women. It just doesn’t matter. In a recent study, 82% of women surveyed agreed that the quality of sex is much more important than quantity . In fact, many well hung men are known to be lousy lovers. First of all, if women feel comfortable with who you are, they will overlook penis size. If you are able to stimulate her with your personality, you need to do the same with your penis. Whether a penis is 4, 6, or 8 inches, if used properly, it can satisfy her and give her an evening of passion and lust.

Having said that however, let me get to what I know is the real problem with these men, and it isn’t the size of their penis. Never once, in all the years I have been answering dating advice, has a man with this question ever asked me what I think he could do to improve his love life. Instead, they ask me for "secret" ways to increase the length of their penis. It is always just about his size. Men…if a woman seems dissatisfied with you, it has NOTHING to do with your dong size, it is because you are a lousy lover. Do you really believe that if you could add an inch or two that your love life would be spectacular? Dream on.

Your main problem is, you have never taken the time to find out what your woman wants and needs from you. I understand that sex is different for men and women. I know that. Men are more visual and for them, the sex act is the main event, and that is ok. Women are wired a bit different. For women, it is more about how the man makes her feel about herself, about their relationship, and about love. Don’t get me wrong, women like sex as much as men do, but it is about being close to your lover, and giving him pleasure, and making him feel like he is special, and also getting that in return. It is a bond you feel when you are with someone you care about.

If your endowment isn’t as large as you would like it to be, so what? Learn how to treat a woman. Learn how to make her feel special, and loved, and needed. Learn how to kiss her to send her over the edge. Learn how to touch her in ways that will make her melt. Sex is more than having a big penis to pleasure her with. A woman will remember you as a great lover for how you make her feel, and not what she feels between your legs.

So does size matter? Yes…if the size of your penis is all you have to offer a woman.

Ok men, if you are serious about pleasing your woman, and not worry about the size of your penis, then you need to learn some love making skills that will drive her wild. Believe me, if you take these suggestions and practice them, she will think of you as the greatest lover she has ever had. I have a book I recommend to every man who wants to be the best lover he can be, and it is by Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb. He is the author of a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking as well as adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit: 500 Lovemaking Tips