J Asked:

Ok, So i met this guy that I really like, a lot, I can’t stop thinking about him. I would love to date him, but right now we just kinda see each other once a week and talk. Last week we talked for like an hour and I felt like we kinda “clicked” I mean, we just have so much in common and we share so many interests.

Where do i go from here? I facebooked him asking him if he wanted to get lunch or something but no response yet, I dont know what to do. does it sound like he’s not interested? Sometimes he takes a long time to respond, and hes not the type of person to not respond to something like that. please help me out, should I ask him if he just wants to hang out sometime this week, or is that too persistent? Thanks for your help

BlushGirl Says:

If you see this guy about once a week, why didn’t you ask him to lunch in person? Why did you use facebook? Don’t facebook him, or email him to ask for a date. Ask him when you are face to face with him. Then, if he isn’t interested, you will know.

Is the reason he hasn’t gotten back to you because he isn’t interested? I have no way of knowing that. Maybe he hasn’t logged in to facebook, or maybe he hasn’t seen your message; he may be busy with other things. There could be many reasons. I wouldn’t be too concerned about it at this point. When you get together with him next time, just ask him for lunch and see how he responds.

There is a chance that he won’t be interested in you and you should never take that personally. I know…how in the world can you not take rejection personally? Because,  no matter how much we want other people to be interested in us, not everyone will be. Don’t you feel like that about other people? Even friends you are very close with, but you have no romantic interest in them at all, but you are still close friends. So if it turns out he isn’t interested in a romantic relationship, please don’t let that affect you too deeply. It just wasn’t meant to be, and the right guy for you may be just around the corner.

I do think you should pursue this if you really like him, just be prepared to handle it if he isn’t interested in more than friends. Do it in person though, and start out by just asking him to lunch or you may scare him away. Take things slow, there is no rush. Let things develop over time. Let me know how things go, will you? I wish you luck and love. - Kelly